Ok so I am 31 years old and I decided this year that in Sept of 2014 I will be moving out on my own. This is a huge change in my life because I have always lived with my family and really haven't traveled anywhere by myself except Albany and I wasn't alone that time either. I went up with a friend to visit a friend. It was up in Albany that I decided that I had a deep desire to move out on my own and to start traveling on my own as well. It was amazing week at my friend's house I haven't seen her in a long time since she moved up to Albany to better her and her son's life. Which was bittersweet for me because I was totally for her to move to better her and her son's life but at the same time I was losing (to me) my best friend almost. I have known her for more than a decade and it was * tears * for me. Any hoo, being with her up there I decided I need to leave the nest and I have to move out of NY. I cannot afford to live on my own in this city. It is just too expensive for someone like me who has nothing saved and has only a part time job...(hence why I called myself a late bloomer. Actually I might be the sloth on this one.) Now between going up to Albany and the last vacation I went on last week...(aunt paid for ticket though I didn't want to go. Mother guilt tripped me into going *sighs... tears*) I decided I was going to start doing what I needed to do so that I can get out by the time frame I gave myself which of course was fall of 2014. I am starting to look for a full time job so that I can start to save up money, looking for cities where it won't cost me an arm and a leg to live in, cities that are safe for me and really isn't far away from some type of culture. There are many reasons why I call myself a late bloomer and not experiencing life is the main reason. I live in New York City... or I should say very, very close to it. I have not gone to many of the art museums, galleries, shows, tours or what New Yorkers call tourist attractions. Most people would say what are you waiting for? and my answer was always, "I don't have the money to go." The real reason... I was just too scared to go alone. Don't get me wrong I have gone to some places by myself but not the places I think are important for me to go to. Now I am 31 and I feel like I have been left behind or more I have held myself back from blooming into the person I need to be or can be. So here I am at 6:38 am in the kitchen on my laptop pouring out my guts and feelings to people I don't know on a forum. At the beginning of this year I started a bucket list of things I will be doing this year. One thing each month that was new and wild for me. I was doing good up until March. Jan was the No Pants Subway Ride in NYC. Feb. was the Chinese New Year parade in ChinaTown. In March it was suppose to be the Easter Day Parade and Bonnet Festival. I made a crochet hat with bunny ears which I did wear that day but was not able to go to the parade because my cousin came back from the navy and the family had a Easter party for him. April came along and I did nothing. Same thing for May (nothing) and in June all I did was go to Albany to hang out with my best friend for the week. July came along and also nothing. Here we are in August and I plan to go to the formal beach party that Improv Everywhere is having on Sat Aug 18. Yes, I will be wearing a formal dress to the beach and going into the water. I will also be taking pictures of this. I will post up pictures of this in the bucket list thread that I have on here as well. Wait... I totally got side tracked... the reason why I started this thread in the first place was to see if anyone had any ideas about where I could move to that was affordable, job friendly and cultural?? I will also be learning how to drive within the next year, so driving will be no problem. I would like to do things for the bucket list, for the months I have missed. All and Any suggestions or opinions are welcomed on anything that I have written about here. Critiques are also welcomed. Thank you for reading my spilled guts and feelings, forum friends. Beaming out, Late Bloomer from NY.